It’s the 4th of September and as of 2 days ago mom has just completed her 9th treatment… Boy has she come far!
In the weeks leading up to this, we’ve seen some pretty good days and some God awful ones. I’ve seen her cry in pain and I’ve also seen her fight to keep the normalcy in her life. I’ve seen her bicker with us (her immediate family) out of frustration, and I’ve also witness her get emotional out of appreciation, simply because I tucked her into bed one afternoon.
She’s lost her hair.
She’s lost weight (I’m not happy to report that, she didn’t have much to begin with).
She battles to keep food down.
The nausea has been insane.
She feels weak to the point that she blacks out.
Her body aches most days, and
She worries that her complexion has particularly darkened.
But the warrior is still standing!!!!
Since my last post, mom’s blood count dropped significantly… Whilst this is not what we hope for, as your blood count need to be 10 and above – it’s also proof that chemo is doing its job.
Added to her already long list of meds on a Friday, is this Cocoa-cola resembling drip called Valifer (pretty certain I’ve spelt this incorrectly), used to up your blood count…. which means it’s also taken her usual treatment of about 3.5 hours up to 5.5 / 6 hours. She is one of the first patients to arrive and literally the last one to leave… we often joke with the staff that we’ll just lock up the premises for them whilst we’re at it.
This week my parents and I visited the company my mom works for. Since her diagnosis, she has been put off from work … Yes, I am aware that many people work and still take chemo or radiation.. however my mom works for a medical waste company. Being in that environment and coupled with the fact that she’s the type of person with an incredibly weak immune system and that her treatments are weekly, putting her off work until her chemo and surgery is complete seemed the only fitting option.
Now back to our visit to Compass Waste Medical Services… It was an incredibly emotional visit for mom. Many may not realise this, but she misses work terribly.. so to visit her “Compass Family” really hit home. How cute it was to see them throw her a mini tea party… the love and support we witnessed was pretty awesome.
That’s the thing about tough times… it shows you the true nature of those around you hey. I’ve personally witnessed the amount of genuine and sheer love and support my mother has received. I’ve also seen the lack of empathy from people she’s once considered close to her. In fact in certain situations I’ve seen more care and affection from strangers than from people she’s had relationships with for decades. This week I’ve realised that whilst many may know the ins and outs of cancer, not many will grasp the emotion behind it… and I guess being on the inside, I’ve taken knowing this for granted. Yes unfortunately we live in a time where cancer isn’t a foreign concept, its now a word mentioned in most homes … but just because it’s become as common as the common cold, it doesn’t take away from the fight a cancer patient has to put up.. so I will forever be thankful to those who have shown my mother and every other cancer patient out there love, support and kindness.